Wednesday, March 6, 2013
Red Hair & Faulty Ultrasounds
Brett and Mandy Peterson are friends of ours and fellow grieving parents. One of Brett and Mandy’s four children, Chase, died tragically a few years ago. One of Chase’s striking physical characteristics was his red hair. Just recently, Mandy gave birth to their fourth child, a son, Tanner. Brett and Mandy were surprised and humbled to discover that Tanner, too, has red hair, just as like his big brother Chase. It seems that through Tanner’s red hair, God has reminded Brett and Mandy of his continued presence and blessing even after unspeakable loss.
During Heather’s pregnancy with Micah, she had no less than three separate ultrasounds. Based upon at least two separate ultrasounds, we were told that our little Micah would be a girl. As a result, Micah was known as “Haley” in those months immediately preceding “her” birth. Heather had a number of “pink” baby showers, and as of the moment of “Haley’s” birth, our home was filled with a lot of pink clothes and baby items. In God’s unsearchable humor and wisdom, the ultrasound machines (or technicians) were wrong, and “Haley” turned out to be a boy. Through Micah’s birth, death, and two more boys, we’ve held on to all those pink clothes. Now, with the expected birth of our baby #4 just weeks away, Heather and I have remarked at God’s sense of humor. How we’ve come full circle with those pink clothes. In God’s plan, a plan that is certainly his, not ours, those pink clothes will be used.
As we have endured the grieving process together, we have tried to look for some of God’s blessings to us in and through our grief. Since we believe there are no such things as “chance” occurrences, we can attempt to discern meaning in the “small things” of life. God is sovereign over all things, whether wars and famines, nations and calamities--even the gender of our children, their hair colors, and faulty ultrasound machines. I think that God sometimes uses these seemingly “small” circumstances in life to provide us with a sense of irony (perhaps humor?) and to remind us of who really is in control. For that, let’s praise Him all the more.